4 TYPES OF FRIENDS THAT WILL HELP YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Friends are people we like playing with, they are people whose company we enjoy so much and love to be around.  Presence or absence of a friend in one's life contributes to whom we are either positively or negatively. However it's important to know that friends play important role in our lives . Having friends can be a good thing and also a bad thing if we don't pick them right.

Having a good friend could be a blessing to your relationship while having a bad one could be an unpleasant thing.

No one can live without people in his or her life because life wasn't created to be isolated and the type of friends you have in your life goes a long way in shaping your PERSONALITY. Friends can positively or negatively influence your relationship with your better half. Who are those friends you should have if you must?

FRIENDS WHO WANT YOU TO PUT YOUR SPOUSE FIRST INSTEAD OF THEM

This type of friends help you get better in your relationship.  They always want you to love your spouse more than them and spend more time with your spouse than them. They do this because they know the significance of making a relationship work. They know what it means to be the right person for the right man/woman and they would never allow you to jeopardize that. This type of friends always call your attention when you're treating your partner wrongly. They remind you of what being a good person is and help you to stay on track. For this reason you should never compromise having this kind of friends for those who want you to spend most of your day with them instead of your partner just because there's a benefit you get from them.

FRIENDS WHO ARE FAITHFUL TO THEIR PARTNERS

There's always a possibility that your friends might not be the same. The reasonable thing to do at the realisation of this is to stick to those who are faithful to their partners and let go of those who are not. It's really important you do this because the presence of a toxic person in your life could make you become toxic yourself. Lion doesn't play with dog, it's not a pride but the realisation of its identity. If you want to live right and have a healthy relationship you must walk uprightly and not bend the rule of faithfulness.  THERE CAN NEVER BE HAPPINESS IN A RELATIONSHIP DEVOID OF FAITHFULNESS. Walk with those who can help you get to where you're going and not those who would truncate your journey. 

FRIENDS WHO MAKE MONEY IN THE RIGHT WAY AND NOT SCAMMERS

If your friends are scammers their life would become a liability to you someday. Even if you are not a scammer your spouse would never be happy you're in touch with people like that and when he/she is not happy there's no way it won't affect your love life. You say you're not the one scamming people but your friends so you can't face any consequence? Wait till the day your fraudulent friends become wanted by the law enforcers if they won't come to interview you in respect of that and that is if they do not arrest you. Don't be a friend to people who would  bring discomfort between you and your partner. They're poisonous and can damage the love between you and your spouse. BIRDS OF A FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER

FRIENDS WHO ARE NOT BITTER ABOUT YOUR FINANCIAL SUCCESS OR THE HAPPINESS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

I once had a friend whom I truly cared for, this guy was so close to me even than my brother. I was never bothered about it that he had more than me financially and he was even in a relationship then while I was alone until things became good for me and he was feeling uncomfortable with my well being. He couldn't stand the fact that fortune smiled on me and was on upward movement financially. I didn't give too much attention to the strange and negative behaviour he started showing until when he told me to stop giving attention to my spouse because he was my friend and he had been around me way before I met my spouse. He couldn't see any reason in me trying to spend time with someone I want to live the rest of my life with and he was verbally abusing my spouse. I CUT HIM OFF MY LIFE AND I HAVE NO REGRET FOR MY ACTION TODAY. THE SAME WOMAN WHOM HE TOLD ME NOT TO GIVE ATTENTION TO IS WHOM GOD USED TO GET ME TO WHERE I AM TODAY. So my question is: what if I had listened to my so called friend? Would my life have been better off? The answer is NO! I had him as a friend for 13 years and didn't feel his impact as friend in my life. He was like a leech sucking away my life in the name of me being helpful to him and I don't ever want somebody like that in my life anymore.

Don't settle for friends who would destroy the relationship between you and your spouse. once you spot a friend like that in your life please cut him or her off immediately.

Only move around with friend whose life displays virtue of honour.

SO i plead with you to consider all those things I listed above when you're selecting a friend so you won't have a toxic relationship with your partner. May God give us happiness in life.

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