HOW TO HANDLE AFTER CHILDBIRTH'S STRESS (POSTPARTUM STRESS)

The joy of many is to have children of their of own. Pregnancy is a fascinating experience which 98% of women all over the world always desire. The thrill of being called mummy by their offspring, to becoming a grandmother someday is a dream many would pay any price to make come true.

You know that joy you get when your little girl or little boy runs at you as you carry them with your hands  and lift them up? That's so priceless and fulfilling.

The other side of childbirth or pregnancy is something that if one is not prepared for could destroy relationship between a man and his wife. This is always common between couple who are just having their baby for the first time. This time is a turning point in the life of every woman which if she does not know how to handle it or has help from the experienced people she could be seen by her husband as a strange individual.

Pregnancy changes women. From the shape of their body, the look of her skin due to stretch mark emanating from pregnancy, emotional intelligence, self awareness,  hormonal level, self esteem and desire to have sex.

Postpartum is a very serious time in the life of a woman. Many women desire to have their baby through a surrogate because of this; they're afraid of physical exhaustion that comes with childbirth while some are afraid that their body might change and their men might not like them again.

But how do you solve the problem and manage it well? This problem cannot be solved by the woman alone because it affects the husband also. How does it affect the husband? The time after childbirth is a time that many women often don't have desire to have sex. Some do have low libido at this time while some are always afraid of sex for the fear of getting pregnant almost immediately.  If you're a woman reading this please let your husband read this material. You can't do it alone without the help of your partner.

TO MEN:

please never remind your wife how her body used to look before childbirth at this time. Telling a woman she looked better before childbirth would make her feel insecure about her body and will never be drawn to you. Instead, you should always tell her she looks beautiful and you adore her. Tell her there's nothing you'd want her to change about her look and she looks perfect. Don't fall into temptation of choosing your favourite look of her anytime she asks you to tell her which do you prefer between her look before pregnancy and after pregnancy. 

 Any time she asks you to tell her which of her look you prefer between when she wasn't pregnant and when she's given birth, tell her you like both and you have no preference.  WHILE TRYING TO MAKE HER FEEL GOOD PLEASE DON'T OVER DO IT BY MENTIONING HER BODY ALL THE TIME OR SAY ANYTHING THAT RELATES TO HER BODY. MAKING HER TO BE CONSCIOUS OF HER LOOK IS NOT THE BEST AT THIS TIME.

TO WOMEN:

Why you're powerful and beautiful is because you're a woman. Another Life comes to this world through you and that makes you a partner with God in creating humanity.  Always know that you look beautiful no matter what and that God is using you to make His plans come to pass in this world. YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL AND YOUR BEAUTY NEVER FADES IRRESPECTIVE OF THE CHILDBIRTH. NEVER FEEL ASHAMED OF YOUR BODY ANY TIME AND ANY DAY.

WOMEN AND SEX AFTER CHILDBIRTH. 

Many women often lose libido after childbirth while some shut out sex because their men wouldn't use protection.  What do you do when this happens?

TO MEN:

 Being patient is what your wife needs from you at this moment. I know it's not easy when that fluid in your system doesn't want to stay inside any more, refusing to pressure your wife to give in to your sexual desire is a sacrifice you must pay so you don't destroy your relationship with her. Never suggest contraceptive drug to her because the side effects of them is something no woman wants to live with. You should learn to be okay with using 'condom' when she says she's ready to have sex again. Your understanding is what makes your wife feel loved  by you and that's why YOU NEED EXTRA PATIENCE AND UNDERSTANDING TO BE A GOOD HUSBAND IN THIS SITUATION. AND IF YOUR WIFE IS NOT READY FOR SEX PLEASE DON'T RUSH HER. LET HER GET HERSELF BACK INTO THE RIGHT STATE OF MIND WHEN SHE'S READY FOR IT. HELP HER FIND HERSELF DURING THIS PERIOD BY BEING PATIENT WITH HER.

A WOMAN AND HER BABY.

Every woman always gets lost in taking care of their baby after birth and often makes men feel neglected or not catered to. A new baby demands the attention of the mother almost all the time. The time a woman wants to eat could be when her baby needs her attention,  and when this happens it always puts the mind of woman off anything called sex or affection. What can you do to solve this problem?

TO MEN:

 Help your wife out with the baby always. Helping her to lay the baby on your own chest while you sing your baby to sleep or pat his/her back to sleep would further reduce the stress your wife has to go through, and this  shows your wife that you care. Feeling helped and feeling loved are some of the acts that bring a woman into conclusion that she has the right man in her life which in turn makes her see you as her everything

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IF YOU WANT TO ENJOY YOUR WIFE AS A MAN YOU MUST LEARN TO HELP HER. AND AS A WOMAN PLEASE LET YOUR HUSBAND KNOW YOU NEED HIS HELP BECAUSE IT WOULD PLAY A GREAT ROLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM.

WE'RE NOT ALL PERFECT BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN WE CAN'T LEARN TO BE BETTER AND ENJOY LIFE TOGETHER WITH OUR SPOUSE.

IF YOU ENDEAVOUR TO PRACTICE THIS I PROMISE YOU WOULD GET A POSITIVE RESULT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Therefore make use of this material and share it with your loved ones to overcome that postpartum stress. 

May God give us happiness in life.

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