WHY SOME PEOPLE DON'T BELIEVE IN LOVE.

This article is dedicated to the Almighty God, the giver of life, love, happiness and the only true teacher that lives.

The topic today is something of concerned. Something that's bothering many, something that makes people withhold their trust, refused to give out their heart and lead a deceitful life. Among the things it generated are as follows:

* EXTORTION.

The word love is being thrown around by people who want to extort others.
Some of those who use the word to extort people see their victims as meal tickets. They imagined being with that individual would make them rich and be able to afford material things. So they planted themselves in the life of the prospective victims and began to milk the person till it didn't work any more. Their tricks, antics and all the lies just didn't work any more because it couldn't stand the test of time. No matter how long lies go on it always get caught up with by the truth. When these individuals found out they had been lied to they felt like victims of the word love and resulted in them seeing a genuine lover as a scammer.

* INFATUATION

I met a man who thought he was in love. The lady he was dating told him she fell in love with him the first day she saw him and he threw his life into her. Oh what a butterfly he had in his tummy because there's nothing people want more in life than to be loved by someone dear to their heart. But it's a tragic to find out what one thinks would be would never see the light of the day. The hope that you would spend the rest of your life with someone you desire get crushed by unseen force is illogical and could be so heartbreaking for some individuals to handle. This was what led to this man never to believe there's anything called love. Like this man there are many people who are in this situation and doesn't want to get out of it.

* CHEATING

Some people have refused to believe in love due to the fact that they were in love with someone who couldn't live by the virtue of faithfulness. Nothing is so annoying than finding out that one has a partner who's cheating. A person who  get cheated on would never have a trustworthy relationship with the person who cheated any more. Breaking a trust is like breaking egg shell, no matter how much you try to patch it back it can never be like it used to be before it got broken. When somebody cheats the trust breaks, and it becomes hard to see the usefulness of the word love if it had been said by the person who cheated. Some people have refused to believe there's anything like love in this universe let alone true love. It's unfortunate to be deceived with the word 'love' I know, but it isn't enough to give believing one can actually find love. I request you to continue reading to see the positive side of this. 

The above reasons are why some people do not believe in love any more. Mentioning the word love where they are is like vomiting on them, it irritates them and makes them uncomfortable.

One truth I've heard in life is: SOMEONE IS GOING TO HURT YOU AT LEAST ONCE IN YOUR LIFE TIME, YOU CAN'T CONTROL THIS, BUT YOU HAVE TO MAKE SURE THE PERSON IS WORTH SUFFERING FOR.

THE BIBLES SAYS "FOR GOD SO LOVE THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON FOR THE ATONEMENT OF SINS OF THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN HIM".

By human nature we're all sinners. We hurt God every now and then, we're not perfect but He still loves us. Why this? IT'S BECAUSE "WE WORTH IT". WE'RE SO PRECIOUS TO GOD THAT HE'S WILLING TO FORGIVE OUR SINS WITH EXPECTATION THAT WE REPENT OF OUR SINS.

I'm not trying to preach or sound like a pastor. What I'm trying to say is that BEING HURT BY SOMEONE BECAUSE OF LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH REASONS FOR YOU TO GIVE UP ON LOVE.

"LOVE EXISTS AND IT ONLY COMES TO THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN IT". IT MIGHT NOT COME AT THE TIME YOU EXPECT IT BUT IT WILL COME AT ITS RIGHT TIME. NO ONE KNOWS THE RIGHT TIME LIKE THE CREATOR AND THAT'S WHY IT'S UNBELIEVABLE FOR SOME WHEN THEY FINALLY FIND LOVE AT THE LEAST EXPECTED PLACE.

 MANY OF US HAVE BEEN THERE. WE GAVE OUT OUR HEART AND GOT SLAPPED IN THE FACE IN RETURN. WE'VE BEEN CALLED FOOLISH AND STUPID BY THOSE WE GAVE OUR HEART TO IN THE PAST, BUT WE DIDN'T RULE OUT POSSIBILITY OF FINDING LOVE AGAIN AND WE OVERCAME THROUGH OUR BELIEF AND CONVICTION.

ESTHER HICKS, IN HER BOOK "ASK AND IT IS GIVEN" SAYS : "EVERYTHING YOU'RE GOING THROUGH IN LIFE IS ONLY PREPARING YOU FOR YOUR DESTINY".

SO I SAY YOUR PAINS WILL ONLY LEAD TO YOUR GAINS IF YOU DON'T LET FAILURES OR DISAPPOINTMENT DEFINE AND DEFEAT YOU. 

MANY PEOPLE HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO REACH THEIR DESTINY OR FULFILL THEIR PURPOSE IN LIFE TODAY BECAUSE THEY GAVE UP ON LOVE. THEY STOPPED BELIEVING IN LOVE AFTER BEEN HURT AND CHASED AWAY EVERYONE WHO CAME INTO THEIR LIVES AFTERWARDS.

ALI BABA ONCE SAID "YOUR CAREER CAN BE TRUNCATED BY THE TYPE OF PERSON YOU CHOOSE TO OR REFUSED TO SETTLE DOWN WITH". I COULDN'T AGREE MORE BECAUSE MY LIFE CORROBORATE THAT.

"WHEN YOU NEED LOVE TO REACH WHERE YOU'RE GOING IN LIFE BUT REFUSED TO BELIEVE IN LOVE BECAUSE OF YOUR PAST YOU'RE THE ONLY ONE BEING SHORT CHANGED BY YOURSELF".

THEREFORE, LOVE IS GOOD.  LOVE IS REAL. LOVE EXISTS. LOVE IS FORGIVING. LOVE IS OPTIMISTIC BUT IT ONLY STARTS FROM LOVING TO LOVE AND BE LOVED. YOU  MIGHT BE DISAPPOINTED IN THE PROCESS BUT DON'T GIVE UP ON LOVE TILL YOU FIND THE RIGHT ONE AND KNOWS HOW TO HANDLE IT.

MAY GOD GIVE US HAPPINESS IN LIFE.

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Yours' Truly,

Adebiyi Abraham