4 GOLDEN RULES OF DATING.

It's a wonderful thing for one to hope to fall in love and be loved in return. Having a relationship is an amazing thing which is also delicate in nature. If you're dating the right person your life could feel like a perfect one, and if you're in it with the wrong person nothing feels hellish like it. But how do you get it right? How do you date somebody and not become outdated in the process? Outdated in the sense that people lose their sense of belonging, their lives get smothered and their self worth becomes fleeting. 

So, how can one prevent this scenario from playing out in your life? Let's learn together as you read on...

1. RECOGNISE YOUR SELF IDENTITY.

You must be aware of your identity as a person if you do not want your life to be pushed around or wrongly defined. Knowing the kind of person you are would help you to define your needs, expectation and core values to your partner. If you do not have self identity which you create for yourself, someone would create one for you and it might be what you don't like. As a man or a woman you must have dignity and self respect or moral codes as some would say

 Being aware of whom you are and what you desire in life would help you to accept only that which is in line with your purpose as an individual and reject that which is destructive to your personality. For example, if you're a faithful person who desires someone who is faithful, being aware of this about yourself would help you see the reasons you shouldn't marry someone who is not faithful. If you're a serious minded person who wouldn't want his or her life wasted, being aware of this would make you eliminate any form of relationship that might not lead to what you want.

 As strange as it sounds some people want to marry but they do not want to have children. Some people want to be engaged to someone and still be able to have relationship with other sexual partners( this is what people call OPEN RELATIONSHIP). So before you date somebody you must take your time to know all these so you do not invest your life in  a futile courtship. know whom you are and live for your self values to avoid sadness that comes with dating wrongly.

2. NEVER RUSH THE DATING PROCESS.

This is always something that many people fail to do. People are so in a hurry to fall in love, so in a hurry to date and they fall for the wrong person. PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE THAT IS REQUIRED TO SUCCEED IN EVERYTHING IN LIFE. LIFE REQUIRES TIME AND PATIENCE TO LIVE IT RIGHT. TAKE YOUR TIME TO DO THINGS THE RIGHT WAY.

 Being patient to build up relationship with someone means you're wise. If you want to know the true identity of the person you intend to date you need patience to do so. They say TIME IS THE ONLY THING THAT REVEALS THE TRUE IDENTITY OF PEOPLE. If you do not want to date the wrong person you need time to study the person and be observant of how the person behaves. Don't invest your life in somebody until you're sure he/she is genuinely the right person for you. Test the person's level of 'honesty', ask the right questions from this person you intend to date and not the questions of what their favourite colour or food is but questions pertaining to your future together. Question of Importance when it comes to what you want in your marriage and relationship. 

The essence of knowing if you have the same view about marriage and relationship is because life would be much easier and sweeter for you if you both believe in the same thing. Having the same mindset about marriage and relationship would create room for other development you might need in process of courtship or marriage when the need arises.

3. HONESTY IS THE MASTER KEY TO HAPPINESS IN DATING.

Where there's honesty there's happiness. What good is being with someone if you only have to live a lie with him/her? If you're going to date somebody let it be someone who is honest in his or her words. If you're in relationship with a liar you would spend all your life trying to scrutinise his or her movement and would never be happy for the fact that you cannot tell the truth of such individual from his or her lies.

4. KNOW THAT SEX IS NOT LOVE.

When somebody tells you if you love me then show me by letting us have sex together please RUN FROM THAT PERSON. Set your priority right when it comes to issues of sex in dating. Ladies often fall victims of this scenario.  A guy wants you to believe the only way he knows you love him is by having sex with him? My sister please tell him that if he can't be sure you love him without giving him sex, then he can never understand what love is all about. LOVE IS A DECISION AND NOT ILLUSION. Pressing someone with issue of sex when is not the time they're ready for it is not love but lust. 

LOVE IS A DECISION THAT TRANSCENDS FRIVOLITY. LET SEX BE IN CONFINE OF MARRIAGE AND DON'T GIVE IT OUT WHEN YOU'RE NOT READY. LOVE IS MORE THAN SEX; IT'S RATHER A SACRIFICIAL DECISION TO STICK TO WHOM YOU'VE DECIDED TO GIVE YOUR LIFE TO. PLEASE DON'T FALL VICTIM.

Therefore you should put all the above information into use when embarking on dating and be rest assured that joy will always be your companion. You would lose nothing if you date right. Please when you intend to do it, do it right.

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