THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND LUST

It has become important for us to address this issues called love and lust. 

Many a time people have misunderstood the concept of love for lust. What is love in the dictionary of some people?

To them love is "he likes my shape, she likes my height,  he likes my complexion,  she likes my swag and being suave,  he likes my hair style, she likes my accent and he loves me because I'm beautiful". Some even go to the extent of material things by saying "he buys me everything I want, he spends a lot on me, he gave me a new car, he took me on trip to Dubai and the Bahamas and sent me a diamond ring".

But my question is: Do all those things above guarantee that you're going to spend the rest of your lives together? I mean will he or she spend the rest of his/her life with you because of that? If so why are the millionaires of this world ending hp in divorce? Why are people who used to buy themselves expensive gifts during courtship are now paying a lot of money on Alimony and child support?

I thought they say "love is meant to last for ever" but why do we have generation of heavy spenders on relationship but runaways in marriage? At the expense of little provocation people throw in the towel. Then I'd hear them say  "I LOVE YOU BUT I CAN'T TAKE THIS FROM YOU IN MY LIFE". Please do not get me wrong by misunderstanding me. I'm not saying people shouldn't leave a relationship where their life is in danger but do you need to leave your partner because you do not think alike when it comes to issues of life?

Some people believe it's a woman's job to take care of the house while some think that's not the case in this 21st century,  some people believe it's a man's job to pay all the expenses bills of the family while some people believe the bills have to be shared between them and their partners. For these reasons people give up and quit because their partner is not working in line with their mindset or beliefs and not because the partner's behaviour is harmful or dangerous to them.

This has however been caused by lack of understanding between love and lust. You thought you fell in love and later fell out of love but not knowing that you fell in and out of lust.

LOVE IS A DECISION AND NOT JUST FEELINGS OR LIKENESS. IN AS MUCH AS YOU MUST HAVE FEELINGS AND LIKENESS FOR THE ONE YOU LOVE YOU MUST UNDERSTAND THAT WHAT MAKES IT A LOVE IS HAVING DECISION TO STICK TO YOUR PARTNER NO MATTER THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN TWO OF YOU. LOVE MEANS PATIENCE, AND IF YOU'RE NOT PATIENT WITH THE ONE YOU LOVE THEN THAT'S NOT LOVE AT ALL. 

LOVE MEANS TOLERANCE AND ACCOMMODATION. IF YOU CAN'T TOLERATE YOUR PARTNER OR GIVE ROOM FOR HIM/HER TO MAKE MISTAKES THEN THAT'S NOT LOVE AT ALL.

LOVE MEANS LONG SUFFERING OR ENDURANCE. SOMETIMES WHAT YOUR PARTNER NEEDS IS YOUR ENDURANCE TO OVERCOME A CHALLENGE TOGETHER BUT INSTEAD YOU'D RATHER QUIT THAN TO SUFFER TOGETHER WITH HIM. IN A SITUATION LIKE THAT THERE'S NO LOVE. 

Love means sometimes you need to endure pains as much as you enjoy life with your partner.

Love is sacrificial in nature. Sacrificial in the sense that sometimes you have to deny yourself some things in order to help your partner out. You might not be the problem in your relationship but your partner is and being there for that person, standing,  waiting and enduring things for your partner to be able to find him/herself again is a sacrifice you pay for love in life which makes people to live together for long. you can't live forever if you can't make sacrifices sometimes. 'IT IS NOT LOVE IF IT IS NOT SACRIFICIAL'. Loving someone sometimes requires no reason to do so, and you do not have any reason to love this person but you just love them and you'll stay with the person for the rest of your life.

You have to love not because of shape, facial look, beauty, hair style, height, complexion, intelligence or accent; your love must be borne out of decision to stay with the woman or man you have for the rest of your life. irrespective of their flaws, you stay and help them to work on it. or If you were in your partner's shoes, would you want him or her to give up on you?

IF GOD SHOULD HAVE A REASON TO LOVE US NONE OF US WOULD BE WORTHY OF HIS LOVE TODAY. YET HE LOVES US DESPITE ALL OUR SINS AND WRONG ACTIONS AGAINST HIM.

THIS IS WHAT LOVE MEANS. LOVE NEEDS NO REASON TO STAY WITH SOMEONE BUT IT STAYS. IF YOU NEED A REASON TO LOVE SOMEONE THEN THAT'S NOT TRUE LOVE. THEREFORE, LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL.

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